Inspired by Derek Sivers’ idea of a personal database of people, I’ve been managing my connections in a way that actually works—for me.
Relationships are complex—blending the personal and professional. Most tools felt too rigid or focused on just one side. I needed something simple and flexible. Something I can use on the go.
Now I use Apple Notes. One folder, one note per person. No structure—just thoughts, conversations, things they care about. It syncs seamlessly via iCloud, so it’s always with me on my phone.
(Side note: If you’re not in the Apple world, Obsidian offers great sync options and a similar folder-based approach.)
Sometimes I record a quick voice memo after events and let AI summarize it.
But most of the time, I write by hand. It’s more concise, more personal—and it helps things stick.
Why do I do my People Relationship Mangement?
Because I want to stay in real connection.
To remember what matters to people.
To create value—by following up, making intros, or simply paying attention.
Some might say taking notes on people feels calculated or transactional.
But for me, it’s the opposite: it’s appreciation.
Remembering someone’s story is a way of showing they matter.
And through the process of writing—active recall, spaced repetition—it actually sticks.
Thank you, Derek. Your idea helped me find a version that fits.